How to Set Expectations in Chinese | The Art of Maybe Ep. 4: 我尽量

"I'll do my best" means something very different in Chinese than it does in English — and getting that difference wrong is one of the most common ways Westerners misread their Chinese counterparts. This is Episode 4 of The Art of Maybe, a 6-part series decoding the real Mandarin phrases Chinese people use instead of a flat refusal. (New here? Start with Episode 1: 也许.)

Phrase 4 of 6: 我尽量 (wǒ jǐnliàng) — "I'll do my best"

Situation: You're asked to do something uncomfortable, and you're not confident you can deliver.

The Western instinct ranges from "No, I'm sorry, this isn't something I can deliver" to the softest, "Well, I don't think I can, but I'll check, and let's see what happens."

In Mandarin: 我尽量在下周之前给你回复 (Wǒ jǐnliàng zài xià zhōu zhīqián gěi nǐ huífù) — "I will do my best to get back to you before next week."

我尽量 sets the tone that you'll consider the request with genuine effort — it isn't deceitful, even if you already suspect the answer. Your Chinese counterpart understands the dilemma; you're not setting false expectations, you're communicating in a style that lets Guanxi keep deepening. Note: "下周之前" literally means "before next week," but in practice it often means "indefinitely."

This is Episode 4 of 6 in The Art of Maybe. Subscribe for Phrase 5 next week: 这个嘛… ("Well, about this…") — the deliberate pause that deflects sensitive group-setting questions.

Want to understand why this works? These six phrases are the practice — but the psychology behind them is the real skill. On my website, I've created a free 23-page guide, Chinese Thinking: Three Levers to Positively Influence Behavior in China, that breaks down how Face (面子), Pragmatism (现实), and Superstition (迷信) work together to explain Chinese behavior — and how to cooperate with it instead of fighting it. Download it free at genejhsu.com.

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